Reasons Why You Mustn’t Regret

Regret is an innate reaction that happens to all of us. Though we develop this habit subconsciously, if we introspect we’ll understand how devastating it’s effect is. Regret takes us away from practical life and fills our minds with possibilities which doesn’t exist now. The awful feeling that results from regretting is well known to us.

My point here is, do you ever wonder why we regret?

Simple and direct answer would be because at moment it’d feel good to blame on the past rather than to accept the present. As long as one can’t master the art of ‘acceptance’, it isn’t possible to get rid regret. It is sad but true that we have limited control over the external factors affecting our life; there are things we must accept —for we can’t change them. Accepting the part which we can’t change and concentrating on what we can, is sagacity.

There is a famous saying that— Never regret anything, because at one time it was exactly what you wanted.

We are emotional beings, we tend to lose our peace and start the blame game as soon as things get out of our control. That’s the moment when we must resort to reasoning and logic.  Even if you had chosen something different, there might have been some other repercussions.
It was our decision and hence it is our responsibility to face the consequences. Facing the results with a bold face is what we can do, or what we must do to make our lives better.Why let this abominable third party named regret get into our business and demolish it?Regrets are what kills humans from inside and makes us believe if we had done differently we’d have achieved a different result, which often makes us perceive ourselves as loser.If you think that becoming a millionaire is the only hardest thing, try living a life without regrets.

Don’t forget to give it a thought and question yourself!

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ENVY : OUR ARCH ENEMY

We often hear people saying that they hate certain dingbats for so and so reason. They hate such people to death and even the sight of their face get on their nerves. They are occasionally referred to as ‘arch enemies’. Most of us have at least few such arch enemies though the reason may be obvious or unfathomable at times. What we know for certain is that we hold grudges against them; we feel our life is miserable just because of them. If only they didn’t exist, our lives would have been much better.

Well, I urge you to give a serious thought on this matter. In certain extreme conditions such animosity can be justified, but for most cases it isn’t particularly true. Our eternal enemy is envy. Let’s walk through a short story.

In the city of Kurmapur, there lives a boy name Riddha, who is 23. He got a job to his liking after struggling for five long years since he graduated. Being a top-class student, he wasn’t unemployed for the period but wasn’t satisfied with his job either. Now, Riddha is very happy that he has got an elite job with one of the top notch companies. He’s exhilarated and called his best buddies over and is celebrating, partying, singing, dancing; in short doing whatever his heart wants. He’s getting frequent call from his relatives and other friends too. He felt like as if he’s at the top of the world; everyone is praising and congratulating him for his grand success. However, In the middle of casual chit-chat, a particular intriguing topic came up. It’s about a classmate of him who changed school after 4th grade. Even though Riddha forgot most of the memories of primary school, he remembers Ranjan, about whom the discussion is going on. Ridddha’s buddies are nowhere near Riddha or Ranjan in terms of success, yet they praised both of them appropriately. But, as soon as Riddha heard that his childhood classmate and competitor Ranjan is now working in Silicon Valley drawing about thrice of his salary, his festive mood shattered into smithereens. He felt utterly awful, his smiling, resplendent face turned haggard within a moment. He deliberately changed the topic to the recent sports match, in the fear of getting ridiculed by everyone. The party which he was enjoying suddenly became a burden to him. Eventually as the clock ticked 12 am, the party ended and everyone went their respective houses. Riddha went to bed with his head still reeling around the thought of his classmate. He became reminiscent of the days they spent together, how he used to beat Ranjan in mathematics and get beaten in English. Instead of getting excited about his newly found job and cherishing the moment, he went to sleep disheartened; his mind filled with the envious thoughts of someone whom he hasn’t met in ages, who took a different path, lived a different life, faced different circumstances, had different opportunities. In this way the night for which he’d toiled so hard, spent sleepless nights, gave up all his hobbies and entertainment turned out to be just another sleepless night—just filled with more melancholy than ever.

I urge once again to all my readers that take a moment to think about of it yourself. Is it the true freedom that mankind has dreamt of since ages? Aren’t we just living our lives as a slave of ENVY and greed? Isn’t it completely correct to say that ENVY is our ARCH ENEMY ?

PRACTICAL SERENITY

In this modern era, this specific term ‘Serenity’ crosses our minds quite often. It is what all of us crave for, visualize as something essential. The recent craze for ‘self-help books’ proves this fact. It promises to develop our inner-self and our personality so that we are less affected by external factors. A lot of lofty ideas are presented in any of the books of this category which soothes our mind.

It’s all right, but the conundrum is —for how long?

We read, enjoy the bliss for a moment and then again forget. Some of us might blame the environment in which we are in, some might feel the ideas are too impractical and so on. Few people would claim that they are following the principles in real life, but it is easier said than done. Changing one’s perspective requires a thorough change of one’s paradigm and books can’t do it. As long as situations are good, we won’t be able to comprehend it. But, as soon as he’s faced with adversity, it’ll be crystal clear how much benefit he’s reaped from the books. In other words, it is like a civil engineer who’ve regurgitated the textbook to get a degree, and believes he can design a bridge anytime easily.

 

Only if it were that easy! Does that mean the ideas are useless and we are doomed? Well, of course not. But the problem is we always expect things to be easy; it’s a typical human trait. If things were that easy, the vast majority of population wouldn’t have been unhappy. We always hear that we must compete with ourselves and not with others. When we are at home reading this principle, we feel delighted that now we got to know the true culprit, we’ll now be happy perpetually. However, the very next day if we go to work and see an undeserving (in our perception) person get promoted and becoming our boss, all hell breaks loose. Because we aren’t fit for facing that situation­— it is as simple as that. No matter how much we introspect, how many self-help books we’ve read, we still get back to square one.

 

Take a moment to think why actually it happens? Is there anything wrong with our understanding? I’ll say no, our understanding is perfect. However we’ve only one limitation which keeps us away from the threshold of ‘serenity’, and makes us run after it.

 

It is particularly because we expected the path to be easy. We underrated its value. Our minds are somewhat conditioned to think in this way; that in our seemingly busy life there’s no time to waste on it. When everything goes well we simply forget it, and during difficult times again remember it.

 

It’s not a magic. Without consistency we can’t achieve anything. In order to achieve something big, we should begin with the smaller goals. Then only we can hope that the dots may get connected in the future. Nothing should be taken for granted.

If you want to achieve serenity, don’t simply wish for it. Take action-now, at this very moment. Kill every minuscule negative thought that comes to your mind. It won’t be an easy way; be prepared for it.

It’s more like a battle rather than a competition against oneself.

You’ll emerge victorious, only if you can annihilate every last one of them. It’s an endless battle. Don’t let your mind fall in their hands. Take the name of the Lord and get into this battlefield, you’ll get your long-cherished SERENITY.

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